Your W is not the only one killing your marriage, how dare you make it appear that this is ALL your W's fault, CeMar....it's not! There are many, many ways to build an EC but apparantly you refuse to see that....because for YOU, today anyway, the only way is by kissing. If you continue this way of thinking you will not draw your W to you.....you will not succeed. It's that simple.
YOU have just as much responsibility for the state of your M as your W does....start taking accountability!