So many of us can relate to your pain - I'm sending you hugs ((((SAA)))))
I don't think there's any pain equal to the betrayal of a spouse. Whether it was an EA or a PA, the hurt is still the same. I agree, marriage is meant for life and not meant until one person gets sick of it! It's just not right at all! It's so ridiculous!
As for the OW, I'm sure she's like all other OW - pathetic and needy! She probably makes your H feel pretty cool about himself and that's why he keeps going back to her. My H told me the OW made him feel "light and happy like nothing else mattered." Well, that sure is infatuation NOT true love, so it will wear off. The hard part? Being the LBS that has to sit there with the shatterd pieces of a marriage that was destroyed. By honoring your M you are honoring God, no matter what you H is doing. At least you can stand before Him and say you did everything you could, unlike your H.
I wish there was a magic answer for the way to get over the OW. I struggle with that tremendously, since the OW in my M is (was!) my friend. Be consoled in knowing that you ARE the better choice for your H, whether he realizes that or not!
