Of what you speak is a simple cause/effect scenario.
YEP. and if we want to continue our Romantic Marriages, we should accept that we have to do this. IE, mate you are the most important to me, I will fill your needs and do my part to make you feel.
If I enter into a relationship with someone, it is not because HE made me feel something... it is because *I* made a decision... otherwise, you are implying that I am at the mercy of anyone who comes along that can get me to feel a certain way... and I really have no choice in the matter.
Attraction is not a choice. I dont imply that ,I state it openly and frankly and demonstrate it repeatedly. Neither is the loss of it internally controllable, for most. What you say is true and pure existentialism, achievment of Nirvana, denial of human self. That thinking is for dreamers, idealists, deniers of self, poets, and rationalizing loners. I too am more then one of the following things, but not all thank the great spirit.
Its not accepting of our own drives, needs, and belonging to the human condition. Your drifting off, Ms. Bohemian. <grabbing for the ballon string> Come back, Stay here with us gross, filthy, intrinsically needy animals. Time to start working at the opposite of what comes naturally.
