....sigh. Ah, the insomnia again. Crapcrapcrap. And busy days coming up.
[quote]HD
:) :D :shocked: :grin: :grin: :grin: LMAO. That was awesome. HD you da man. whup my ass. LOL.
- Here here, HD. LMAO. I knew lawyers were good for something in this world. Here's one for you.
Q: What do you call 40 lawyers jumping out of an airplane?
A: Skeet.
[b]Undermined me to her every chance[/b] This is actually a serious mistake on his part. It gives her something to resist, and think, thats not true, he wasnt that bad.
- Actually, BF. Have to clarify. He is clever b/c he undermined me in positive terms and not negative. Pushed her insecurities. Not trying to be immodest but our looks were not comparable by any stretch. He would tell her I was going to eventually leave her for something better. His rap he honed to a science due to his lack of looks, shall we say and he knew what to say. This is why I know exactly why I am where I am. She was always afraid of me leaving etc. I basically all but made a blood oath that I would be Mr. Reliable via my behaviors, Betaizing self, and having no boundaries for her...was too cool for those. Laid back and self-assured. etc. KilledKilledKilled my original attraction to her.
AS-IF is the correct way.
[b]XX tastes on high,high,high end. [/b] That means your on the high, high,high end. How do you like that perspective change?
- I like that. She did used to joke way early on in pre-serious R she would steal my sperm if something ever happenedd where we weren't together and she wanted a baby. Hmmm, how things change. LOL. [ b]They want to feel. They want to be cherished. they want to 'know' you. [/b] this is true the following is not.
[b]Said I'd love her even if she became toothless bag lady. She was in disbelief. Said "are you crazy?" Don't think she gets it.[/b]
BF says "are you crazy?" I dont think you get it. Where is the challange? She has to have standards to live up to. You have to have standards so she can feel qualified. She doesnt want any schmuck who would settle for a bag lady. [/quote]
- Yes. I see where you're going with this. She knows I would never settle for a bag lady.. Always was convinced early on she didn't meet my physical standards. Again, this is tricky b/c it has to be taken in the context of what was said by both at the time. Can't remember. However, since I was beta for so long it was not an empowering statement. Humorously macho comment would have been a continuation of that line with "...but until that unfortunate day I expect you to be the smoking sexy hot ravisher you are today or I'll have to throw you to the curb so you can practice up with all the other bag ladies."
Yes, I know, it's too long and hard to say impromptu.
But makes a difference, huh? I lowered her persona to bag lady. In second part, I raise her up, offset her with teasing pinch to her earliest insecurity, and color with ever important humor. Hindsight. Sigh.
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
