Believe it or not, and I hope the other ladies here might chime in... some women do not gracefully transition from being the young hottie to an alluring woman. And it can happen around the age of 30 (did with me). One woman knows she's 'got the goods,' and plays with people (because she is still growing up), the other knows she IS the goods,' and does not tolerate fools lightly. THIS is a woman worth keeping... the former is as dangerous as stampeding elephant in a china store...
Ok Corri, I'll chime in. I think you are making some great points. When H left, I think I also went into somewhat of a MLC mode. I was 34, had two yound kids, H just left. I thought I was pretty "hot" but looking back now on my transition into wife and mother, I think I was not making the most of what God gave me, so to speak. Wasn't exercising, wasn't dressing very attractively, not hideous or anything, just more conservative than I do now. My life was focused on the kids and not much else. Makes me sad now. I lost me. When H left, it was a smack in the face and a great wake up call to boot. I am 35 now (half way to 40) blech. I do feel time slipping by now. But I also think I look better than I have in years. I'm trying to take care of myself. Not to get a man, but for me. H is back and I have no intention of returning to frumpy mode. I'm trying to get from the "has the goods" stage to the "IS the goods" stage as you stated. I am getting closer. I'm worth having my H desire and want me. And if he chooses somewhere down the road that he doesn't, I know that will be his loss. I really don't crave youth but maybe I am still hesitent of aging. What will I be like at 50,60,70. Will I still be sexually attractive. I think it has more to do with attitude than anything so I am working on improving that more than anything. Maybe if I just keep telling myself I'm "hot" I will be even when I'm 80.
