I just wanted to tell you that I hear and feel your pain and I'm sorry for the disappointments you have all endured with your exes. I have an ex, whom I was married to for 10 years. He is still the man I had to leave. He has learned nothing from what went before and I am grateful to have finally left him and that life behind. I am also grateful for the lessons that I've learned. My current H is not perfect but I am not afraid to give this my all, to love him not only as much as I loved ex-H but more, to give more, to risk more and even to feel more. I guess there is a chance that I will pay for it in the end. If so, so be it.
You guys, Stigmata, Blackfoot, Snook, may have loved and lost but you are still here to live and love again when the time is right. Take some valuable time off like Nop suggested and when the time is right and the person is right give it your all again.
