Business inventory and peeing dogs: Much better than dividing up assets from a 34 year M.
Okay, I've guessed what ED means, but a pill will do this? Better watch it, she might put one into your coffee.
Had more trouble with SSDD.
So still no luck with turning on the W? By the way, just a thought (hope you don't think I'm too nosy). Are you pretty much in shape, not much overweight? Do you wear cologne, dress like a man wanting to court a woman, have your own hobies and interests but also share interests (outside of household stuff) with your W?
I used to give hints about those things when my H was living with me. Didn't do any good. Now he still has the same habits and wonders why he can't keep a woman very long.
My bf and I love to dance, hike, eat healthy, walk everywhere, stay fit, go to folk concerts, etc. We have much more in common than my H and I.
Have you taken your W on a date lately? I mean a real date with wine and the works? Still think she needs to wonder about you a little.
Maybe you could ask your W to help you set a date for making good the promise. Better yet, ask her to help you move the business inventory, make it a fun project, something to do together. Would she be open to this? Or is it YOUR stuff and HER stuff?
She has no idea how hard it would be if you found somebody else and you were not there to nag and vise versa.
Because of the separation, I learned a lot about sex and about myself. My H hesitated when we first became physically intimate at the beginning of the separation, saying that I might have unreasonable expectations. And I did. I thought that if I was patient, Dbed, learned to be the kind of lover that he always wanted but didn't have because of my insecurities, that he would want to come home and really work on the M.
This didn't work. And I hurt myself more by doing it. The sex was fantastic. But he didn't respect me. I was casual sex to him. Though we were legally married, we were having sex while he was pursuing other women, while he was looking for a soulmate, spiritual partner, lover, teammate, someone to spend his old age with. "We both enjoyed one another" he said to me when I told him that it wasn't right to be in a sexual R, but not a committed R.
I know now that it can never be right unless both people agree (and mean it) to a physical R with nothing else. Please imLIN, think about it. By doing this you may be hurting your chances of getting him back. Though feminine women usually bond through sex, masculine men usually do not, and they are capable of doing it with more than one woman without any kind of bonding or commitment at all.
Be careful, and read all you can on the subject. If I had detached from my H after he first left, I wouldn't still be hurting the way I am after 9 months of separation.
It seems that you've been separated a long time, I feel you would be better off looking for another person to begin an R with. You may ultimately find someone who wants only you and you might fall in love with him. And if your H believes that he may really be replaced, he might find it's harder than he thinks. Who knows?
Thank you for the advice......One this is for sure I wouldn't be having a sexual relationship with him if he were with someone or even looking.....he was even concerned for me because he had been with the OW and has not been checked by a doctor for diseases....although he feels there is no worries he wants to be cleared first.... so protection is used in that area.....
I might be putting my heart out there but at the same time I think finding comfort in each other might help us both regain what we lost....maybe I am wrong.....it has been a very very long time for us apart....and him silent.....I am thinking maybe it was time for us to feel good together.....I had not been celebite(SP) this long since I was 14!......and for me, I found someone but just wasn't able to cross the line to being even remotely intimate.... I couldn't even kiss him!.....My H says it has been over a year since he was with anyone....I tend to believe him.... there is no other indications to me that he is lying....
Sooooo.....I will keep praying.....things feel good.....I hope they stay good....
RE: imLIN when I found my H looking for the passion on-line that he was lacking from me that woke me up and I found out that I could enjoy sex.....now I want it all the time...
Sorry, I don't know any advice to give you about how to get your H interested again except to be his best friend. Maybe the rest will follow.
About the losing interest until you saw him looking on-line, well I think about loking on-line sometimes but don't really want to have resort to that as it feels too much like betrayal to my W and myself.
My goal is to get my W interested in the R and sex without letting the situation go that far. So far it has been a long road and progress has been slow.
I know there are other guys that want their respective wives to "get it" before the leaving/detachment takes place.
At one time, I thought if I ever looked or left there was no comming back. Maybe that is a guy thing, or the way other guys think. Solve this ( once gone, I am never looking back) and you have an answer to much of your R problem.
No I wouldn't suggest looking either as it was very very painful for me to find he was doing that....
Might I suggest that you just openly and plainly tell that while other men might seek an outlet via the internet or PA that you would rather talk to her and see if you can work together to create a relationship that is fulfilling to you both.....and let her know this is not about blame and that you are ready to hear if she has issues that perhaps you need to give on and then you tell her the issues that you would like her to give on.... Teen years are tough, then we get married and just when you think you have it made the bridge colapses.....life is never what we plan is it???
