RE: imLIN when I found my H looking for the passion on-line that he was lacking from me that woke me up and I found out that I could enjoy sex.....now I want it all the time...
Sorry, I don't know any advice to give you about how to get your H interested again except to be his best friend. Maybe the rest will follow.
About the losing interest until you saw him looking on-line, well I think about loking on-line sometimes but don't really want to have resort to that as it feels too much like betrayal to my W and myself.
My goal is to get my W interested in the R and sex without letting the situation go that far. So far it has been a long road and progress has been slow.
I know there are other guys that want their respective wives to "get it" before the leaving/detachment takes place.
At one time, I thought if I ever looked or left there was no comming back. Maybe that is a guy thing, or the way other guys think. Solve this ( once gone, I am never looking back) and you have an answer to much of your R problem.
