Re Rere At one point he asked why I wanted to do it so fast (it isn't fast, since we had to be separated a year to file and we have 3 months to go).
I don't see it as fast either.

Then H said someting about we could still remain friends. I responded with "No, we can't."
I don't think I could be friends for a long time. I would be thinking about what I wanted the R to look and feel like, knowing that the SO was not thinking something similar would be too depressing.

before I got out of the car he reached to kiss me. I backed away and said,"I don't think so."
I would feel the same way. I could not be kissing my marriage partner while she was seeing someone else.

but will not put up with his disrespect any longer.
It is called cake eating or having your Kate and Edith too.

Longer vacation? Well how about more shorter ones? And to give credit to BB or say I have my faults, I still have not moved much of my business inventory out of my house. I am looking for someone to buy the whole business.

Yes, I lose points for making promicies but it takes a lot longer than I or she thought to carry ou the promice and get the job done.

In my case BB loves me but does not like my business inventory in the basement and thinks she is too old for sex. She thinks I need to take a pill so I will have ED. I also complain about a dog she has that pees on anything new in the house. SSDD? yes.

Lou