Just b/c you've never dated two girls at one time doesn't mean that you can't! Remember, I'm not talking sex here. Friendship is important.
I'm also interested in being a more spiritual person at this point in my life. Am reading Wayne Dyer's books. The three men in my complicated life all know this and last night I copied the Saint Francis of Assisi prayer onto a photo of an egret I took in Florida last year. I'm a pro photographer and will give each one an 8x10 glossy of this.
Lou, I was like your W. Before my H left, I really didn't care for sex at all. So from my perspective, my H doing what he did, generated an enormous amount of interest in him. No wonder he hasn't returned, he now has the best of both worlds. But like I said this will change after the New Year.
Yes, I feel that letting your W think that there may be someone else is really the way to go. I hate to admit it, but before my H left, I also told him that he wouldn't be able to find somebody else. Those words have haunted me now for seven and a half months.
I don't know what will happen. My hike was wonderful yesterday. We were on part of the Appalacian Trail, and hiked for four hours. We were going up hill though there were switchbacks. He was affectionate and I'll see him New Years Eve. He is very intuitive and wants reassurance constantly that it's over with my H. I believe that if he were not quite so needy in this area, that he'd have a better chance. My H on the other hand has an "indifferent" attitude, which makes me want him all the more. This goes to show you that being or acting indifferent is the best strategy.
I'm taking one day at a time. I'm not a spring chicken and feel that I'm not being immoral or anything of that sort. I know God wants me to do what I'm doing.
I don't know who I'll ultimately end up with. Maybe the man who's 9 years younger. He's taking it steady but slow with me. I spent Christmas Eve with him. We sang and prayed, went to dinner, kissed a few times. It was an enjoyable evening.
Use your creative energy to find a way back to your W. She's taking you for granted, like I did with my H. She thinks you'll be there no matter what. She needs to experience some fear of losing you.
