Thanks for your advise. Actually ,I've been involved with groups all along. Have lots of friends at the dojang (the school where I'm a student of Taekwondo), and have other friends. The two men that I'm seeing I met on a dating site. So I did get to know them before we met. I have much in common with both, and am basically just friends with them now.
I've been separated for seven months, and I feel I have to become involved with people of the opposite sex as well as my friends of the same sex.
If I become romantically involved with someone, then que sera, sera. But I really don't see a time limit on any of this. We do things when we're ready period. Sometimes it's hard to know when this is. I've read of people on this forum who still have not moved on after six years. Yet that is what's right for them. I'm still trying to find my spiritual strength and the men that I'm dating and my girlfriends understand this.
I will be eternally grateful to the people on this forum who have supported and encouraged me.
NYsurvivor, do you have a more extensive sitch somewhere on these forums? Are you going to give us a more in-depth update of where you are in you sitch right now? I believe some of us would really like to see this. You are so articulate, wise, and helpful, I can't imagine that you would be without a W very long.
Strong$Sassy,
How strange that your ex was sitting right behind you as you wrote about him! In a way, it's probably good that you see him often. I think when you're with somebody often, the fantasy of the good-times isn't there--you can see the real live person with all of their flaws and issues-kind of like it is when you're living with them and/or married to them.
