I was told to immediately go and have sex with someone and be done with it...that just doesn't work. You still have all the issues you have to deal with and work through.
A funny thing my exH used to throw at me when we were separated...if you don't have sex with me, I'll find someone else who will...he already had...he didn't fool me one bit and I didn't fall for it...I already knew that there were several ow during our separation...of course he thought I would fall for the "I'm not sleeping with them..." but when Kim (yes another Kim!!) and I became friends afterwards, she quite confirmed that they had been together during our separation...so he was trying to play me for a fool. Just keep your eyes open. I know we want to believe them...but just protect yourself.
I have moved on from Dave. He's sitting here at work now right behind me...I was trying to see if the familiar butterflies were there that I always had whenever he walked into the room...they're not there. But then again, honestly I haven't seen him or his eyes...so that remains to be seen. I do know that the R we had is dead and gone. The man I thought he was is dead and gone. He is down at the bottom and as he told me last month, he has nothing to offer me because he has nothing. I don't think he is capable of offering me what I need or want now...you know...I've changed, I've grown and he's only fallen further back. We're two very different people now...or maybe just me.
