Yes, I truly believe age is a state of mind. I do feel a little more hopeful because the other guy (who is a year older than I) just called and I have a dinner date with him on Thursday. Of course, I'm still crying over my H, and still have visions of going to the RV before long. The only thing is, the man who just called is very perceptive, has asked me a million questions about my H. I know he is concerned about getting hurt if we reconciled. Anyway, he hadn't called for three days and I finally e-mailed him and asked him if I should mail the pics I took of him on one of our hikes, I also told him that I've ceased contact with my H. So if I don't follow through with this, it seems I've been lying to him. He is so intuitive and I know he sensed that things were not all the way over between my H and me.
I don't tell my age if I can get away with it, but I could be your mother LOL. I'm glad you're communicating with others. This is strange, but I used to think there was a huge difference between men and women. Now I believe that males and females are really more similar than different.
One of the reasons I'm hesitant to stay dark from my H is because I'm afraid that after awhile if I break it, he won't want a physical relationship with me anymore. Maybe by then he'll be getting it from the OW and he'll know that he can exist without me, and maybe I'll know I can exist without him. I do have to be careful, because my lawyer told me not to have sex with anyone while I was still legally married. My H could use this against me, even though we're separated. Not that I want to have S with anyone else. I'm not serious about these two, but I know the older one likes me a lot--and you can't hold them out for six more months (until we can legally divorce in NC) can you?
I've heard a few places that the way to get over someone is to get involved with another. And then you hear the opposite--not to fall on the rebound. Right now I can feel happy when I'm with someone else, but the minute I'm away from them (and occasionally while I'm with them) my mind and heart goes to my H.
Would you say that you have really moved on? Or do you still entertain thoughts of Dave? I thought that a while back you said you were over him. But I know that some days and different times of the day, my thinking changes. What about you? Didn't you say that he has just about hit rock bottom and lost most everything? I don't want to confuse your sitch with someone else's.
