You don't have to "date" other people just get out and mingle. Ask any of my friends...I have the world's greatest group of friends that all know the crap I have been through. When I stood up at the bar a couple of weeks ago and said Okay I'm ready...let's do this dating thing...everyone started clapping. It was hilarious. They all said it was about time. Of course they started looking around the bar for potential suitors and well all looked at each other and I said, no...we don't go out with anyone from here...don't poop where you eat!! But let me tell you a little flirtation or conversation with someone from the opposite sex does a world of wonder for your PMA. I know...boy do I know. I think it's what helped me so greatly change my life around from sitting and waiting to getting back out and living my life for me. Does it mean I'm going to fall in love, blah, blah...only time will tell...but it sure does feel good to have the blood flowing through the veins again and to be able to laugh and feel human again.
I know exactly where you have been...sweetie I was there too...so far down that at some point I gave thanks to God that I had a daughter to keep me going. I've lost so much weight from stress that my friends worry about me. It's almost 6mos for me and now I look back and wonder why did I even put myself through this.
I've read and read and as my daughter says I have quite the library collection of R books. I can stand now a bit more confident, my head held up a bit higher, I am okay. I have faced my greatest fear (losing him) and I have survived...you will get there too and you will be stronger and more confident and through that you will decide what you want in life.
Regarding jealousy...men do get very jealous...sometimes I think we forget and take for granted their very frail egos. You don't have to actually do anything, okay? if it makes you feel more comfortable, do what HopeFloat is doing, we're showing her how to be more mysterious with her H. Not answer calls and even are trying to convince her to leave mysterious signs at the house when she goes away for Christmas. It all boils down to GAL and raising your PMA so you are mentally and physically healthy and you are no longer driven exclusively by the rush of emotion that we all had initially when this happened to us. Through that you can step back and out of your body so to speak and see things clearly.
