Okay I think I understand what you are saying now.
I do feel the tenderness after sex. He likes to hold me and be tender, but he hasn't said ILY for awhile, though I stopped saying it too.
The relationship that he's in now has only gone on for about two months. He met her on Match. They are both off of it so I'm assuming it's a mutual understanding. But I also have reason to believe she's not the only one he's pursuing.
The reason he left me seven months ago was to pursue another one he met on Match. He left the day after they actually physically met. But she refuses to see him, and even told him no contact, but I know he still pursues her and is in love with her (letters I found). I even found a call from her place of business on his caller ID last week. When I'm at the RV if he knows I'm coming he'll hide the phone. But I went there one day when he was gone, I have a key and I went in and there were different nums. on the ID.
This really did me no good, as I found more info in the trash he had put out in front of our house that morning.
OH how I wish I hadn't gone through it! Knowledge may be power, but if you're so depressed by it all and wish there were a way out of the pain that is socially acceptable, you know that isn't worth it. I'm sort of backsliding to where I was when he first left, not being able to eat much, having lots of problems sleeping, crying all the time, can't concentrate on work and other things. It's probably this time of year too. I'd like to just go somewhere and get away. If it were not for my two little cats I would leave for a couple weeks. Thanks so much for your comments and support. Rere
