Sorry...forgot to add in my last post. Normally, I would say to try to keep the "connection" through whatever means, even s@x (that is if you don't feel sh*tty after the event) with your H whilst he is in La-la Land; but since you've already said GOODBYE, you need to KEEP to your word. Otherwise, he will call you BLUFF. You really have to stand FIRM on this. (I know it is easier said than done...I am good in talking tooo... and may not perform as well )
So...Am giving you lots of hugs ((((((Rere)))))) to be STRONG to stand firm and NOT give-in to H's advances...
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