I had a date with my WAH last night. I know he's seriously dating at least one other person and have found much info on the OW and his feelings for her.
Anyway, he came to me directly from her. He'd been with her all day. We went to dinner, had some Merlot and nice Italian food, then came back to the house and ML. For the first time he actually spent the night here. We went to McDonalds to bring back some breakfast food to heat here. On the way back, I asked him about Christmas Eve. He had already asked me for Christmas morning breakfast and a movie. But I'm so greedy that I asked about Christmas Eve. He said he didn't know. I told him that I needed to know so I could make plans. He said, "Let's go ahead and make our individual plans and then if they don't work out we can get together." Well, he had been with the OW the day before for 12 hours, and I'd tried to call all day and he didn't answer. The time of our date at six he calls and says he will be 45 min late. So I remembered this and the thought of him waiting to get another date for Christmas Eve really hurt me. So when we got back to the house, I pulled out his breakfast sandwitch, handed it to him, and told him I didn't want any more contact with him. I said that I loved him, but that I was tired of being in limbo, that I had to get on with my life. He said "Just because I won't spend the whole Christmas weekend with you?"
I told him that it didn't have anything to do with Christmas, but that I wanted no more contact, I said maybe sometime next year. Then I took my breakfast sandwitches, told him I enjoyed the time with him and said godbye and left him looking not too happy. He drove away and I came in and cried. The point is, I've done this before and always backed down and asked to see him again. I did mention the OW several times in the restaurant, even told him I knew who she was, but that I would not get in touch with her. He denied it was the woman. Any advise is welcome!!! Rere
