That is interesting HP. We have similar stories, minus the separation and your H willingness to let you have it about the chores. See, my H would never in a million years "fly into a fury if the house was messy". He would sit and stew instead Neither response is great but your H response at least got you moving. My H response makes me want to sit back and have some more bon bons I see your point about the clutter making you feel anxious too. I do the same thing. H and I just have different thresholds. I can let that pile of crap sit in the corner of the room for a month whereas he hits the wall in 2-3 days. I WILL eventually get to it, just not on his schedule. When he was out of the house, the house was not a pig sty at all. But I was the one in control of when it got cleaned and I liked that. I hate cleaning on my own, the last thing I want is for him to be standing over my shoulder waiting for me to do it. Ah, whatcha gonna do. Marital Bliss.
