"But even now, I still feel like I lust in my heart. Is that normal/ok? Still love it when guys flirt with me or I flirt with them. Still worried about my boundaries. A work in progress."
A VERY good question LFL. I guess you are good for something after all.
I am struggling a bit with this one too. As I gain in self-confidence and work toward making myself more attractive, women are noticing me. Just going into the gas station the other day to buy a coke there was a women that kept glancing at me and smiling, doing the whole "pull the hair behind the ear" thing (which I've always taken as a sign of interest, maybe I'm wrong about that). And since I am taking more of a devil may care attitude, I am more open in initiating convos with them. Not necessarily flirting per se, but definitely joking around. And I have the natural ice-breaker ... "how tall ARE you?"
I can see on the one hand that you don't want to give another woman the idea that there is the possibility of an inappropriate "encounter", but on the other hand, being more confident in myself is naturally going to spill over into the rest of my life. And as I'm sure BF and Stig will agree, women will just naturally gravitate toward that. And even when I am out with the W, I want her to see me being confident with other people.
So where is that line? I can think of a few obvious examples of what not to do, but are there some not so obvious things I should be thinking about? Especially in my case where there was an affair that will color my W's views of my interactions with women. I want my W to admire me as a fun, approachable, confident man. Having others see me as a likeable guy can only help us. But I don't want to make her jealous.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
