You said something that is key. "If I feel good about myself, it doesn't matter if anyone else, even my H, validates it." Good for you for realizing this!!! If YOU feel good about yourself it also makes a HUGE difference in how others perceive you. It is a large component of that self-confidence that others find attractive.
That is almost verbatim to something my H told me attracted him to me. I'm confident, I'm self-assured....he finds that a very attractive quality. I couldn't be those things though if I didn't feel good about myself. Granted our sitch has broken some chinks in my self-confidence....but for the most part it's still there. I think that's why I've managed to stick with him through this situation of ours. Deep down....I've always known, it's not me. I am attractive, I am sexy, I am many, many things that his issues often prevent him from acknowledging.
Work on feeling good about yourself...it will only do good things for you!
If YOU feel good about yourself it also makes a HUGE difference in how others perceive you. It is a large component of that self-confidence that others find attractive.
