Give him direction LFL, he needs that from you in order to succeed.
GEL, I have been taking this advice. I have been VERY specific with H since most of you have been saying I am too vague. I have either said directly to him "I need to hear...." or praised him when he would say things on his own like, "I love your butt in those jeans." "You look sexy." You get the idea. I could care less if he told me I did a nice job cleaning up the kitchen. I want to here I look good, attractive, sexy, whatever. That is what I was getting from men during our separation and I think I craved that when we got back together because I was no longer really hearing it. He would always say I love you and stuff like that but not the raw sexual attraction stuff which is what really made me feel good. Now he is getting it more. Everyday he has been making comments so I see his effort. I am doing it back to him as well, "Oh, your arms are more buff since going to the gym." Stuff like that. He seems to really like it to so at least something is going much better in the LFL household. Still struggling with some resentments but I think A LOT of it was wrapped up into thinking he did not find me sexy or that he did not DESIRE me. This is really changing so I am hopeful.
