So are you saying you regret not making the reconciliation with your W work? It wasnt mine to make work. It was ours.
Do you REALLY think it was workable considering all of the hurt and betrayal? yes, we were right on the verge of making a major step. IMO. I felt it. I didnt sabotage it, IMO. you said He doesn't seem to get that part AT ALL. I would welcome him going off on me about OM, about anything! But he won't because he thinks too much, doesn't feel. Can logic his way to any response
Well I went off. She wasnt invested enough in the R to stick around. You are.

How could you trust her again. Even if your ex did everything possible to try and show you she was wrong and wanted you back, I don't think you would have been able to handle that. Thanks for thinking so highly of me.
What makes me so different? Not that I am not trying but it is sooo hard.
Yes it is. None likes dealing with the consequences of their errors. All things of value and beauty come about thru hard work and long term effort.
I think it was Freud's hypotheses-- a starting place is not going to be as perfected as the knowlege and creative and critical thinking it spawns.

You are at the starting phase. This is a long term effort.
M is for the long term. Right?

Making the moves gets old and does not make me feel like HE is doing any of the work.

If he hadnt made a first second or third move you wouldnt be back together right now.
Instead of seeing the similarities between you and me, --emotional, stubborn, egocentric--- (IRL noone would ever accuse me of being emotional. my x would flip out to read that. I use this board to relieve stressors, egocentric? I really dont care how I appear to others. Thats lack of ego. In fact I love chromo because of his complete lack of egocentricity here. He is like this apt pupil... 'show me the way NOP'....) you should be looking at the similarities between me and your H, I try to tell you where he is coming from.

Well GEL and HP are doing a outstanding job, coaching you. Its obvious why they are getting the results they are, too me.

Just wanted to drop in and say hey, and check up on my brunette, blond and red headed hotties. better then neapolitan ice cream I have to say.....