What I mean is have you told him you aren't opening up to him because he won't open up to you (the real him)?

YES. And he looks at me like I have three heads. Says he is opening up to me. That scares me even more because I think he truly does think he is being open. Maybe he is giving all he can give. I need to see more.

I can understand how you hate this, but you are going to have to make the first move with him, and possibly the second, and the third.
Ahhh! Don't tell me that Nop. Making the moves gets old and does not make me feel like HE is doing any of the work.
And let me tell you I am way past the first move, maybe on move number 8,459. There is no end in sight.