Good point Nop. I also think it is unhealthy to be too trusting. Which makes me question why H has not insisted that I hand over email, cell phone, etc accounts since we have reconciled. Actually I think I know why. Because that is his nature. He is a very trusting person. Always has been. Throughout our entire M, he always expressed full trust in me and would say flat out that he Knew I would never have an A. He never once showed any jealousy or concern regarding any other men. He is still like that today despite the fact that I had a sexual R with OM less than a year ago. He sounds like the complete opposite of you in many ways Nop so I don't know how he would respond to this "open book" approach. No. I do know how he would respond. He would say ok and then maybe underneath the surface not be comfortable with it but never tell me. That just about sums up most of our interactions. Do you know how hard it is to live with someone when you not only do not trust the negatives (is he lying/cheating etc) but you also have no reason to trust the positives (he really means it when he says he will never leave again, that he loves me more than ever, that he trusts me, respects me). I barely respect myself sometimes, why would he respect me so much? I am just trying to be realistic. He lives in happy land most of the time. Drives me nuts.
