Privacy is not wrong. He doesn't need to be reading through your personal journals and such. I don't have a problem with a private bulletin board so long as it is being used in the way this one is. Even so, I didn't hide my participation here from MrsNOP, although I was surprised when she decided to read all my posts and start participating. That was an interesting day for some relationship growth in the NOP household.
I don't think that you having email conversations with a male friend should be private. That would be a secret.
Just common sense stuff, no secrets. Privacy is okay.
Having said all that, once you get to a stage of intimacy in your relationship, you will worry less about privacy, and as you hide less from your spouse, you will find deeper intimacy is possible in your relationship.
Just remember this, there is no room for secrets in a marriage. Secrets are a marriage slayer. If he or you are toting secrets, then you have some serious relational working out to do.
You said your husband only corresponds with male friends. How do you know? Do you know who his friends are, and what kind of people they are? Have you met them?
Do you see what I mean about secrets? Unless you can answer positively to all the previous questions, then he has secrets. I think you get the idea.
For what it's worth, MrsNOP has all my passwords, and I have all hers. The email accounts we use publicly are all shared.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
