BZZZZZZZZZ wrong, answer! (as my H would say.) You don't assume that at all....you ask! Otherwise you are avoiding just as much.
The smackdown from GEL!
Hee Hee, you are right. I should not assume. And really I think my semantics were just wrong. I would come right out and ask. In fact, I recall distinctly asking my H in the weeks before he left if he had any thoughts/plans to leave. He answered no. He lied.
If I avoid now at all, it may be because I do not trust the answers he gives. I have asked him over and over how could you have lied to me. He says something lame like he was lying to himself and just couldn't face the truth. He wanted to put off the inevitable until the bitter end. Unfortunately, he never even had to get the balls to tell me because I found the bank statement with the withdrawal to the apartment complex. I confronted afterall I wish I had never found that statement to see what he would have done. Oh well. All history now.