Quote: If he continues to conflict avoid, I can only assume what he says and what emotions he expresses are not genuine.
BZZZZZZZZZ wrong, answer! (as my H would say.) You don't assume that at all....you ask! Otherwise you are avoiding just as much.
Assuming things like that is a dangerous thing to do. The two of you need clarification BIG TIME in your R right now.
I realize you want to see certain things from him...but you are BOTH having to change behaviors remember. If you assume something in a situation like the one you just wrote....then you are conflict avoiding too. You don't get to do that either
One other thing...I noticed you wrote that there's nothing he can say or do to make you "fully" trust him. Why are you setting that as his goal right now? You're rebuilding trust...you don't go from diddly-squat in that department to "fully" trusting him again overnight. What are small things that can begin rebuilding trust?
GEL
