Thanks for sharing that story GEL. Commitment is a funny thing. I think in some M that word gives people permission to slack off on the R. Why really work on something that is so difficult when you know darn well that person isn't going anywhere. While other people really need that level of commitment to jump start the improvement process. With my H, I do not trust his words or his emotions. I recall very vividly the few days before he left. He had the apartment already purchased. Was out. Yet, talked to me like not a thing was wrong. Acting perfectly "normal" other than the ongoing depression that was lingering for the months before. But he is not me. I would have been making darn sure he knew how I felt and that I was out the door because of it. But not him. So the long history of conflict avoidance makes me very gun shy with trusting him. We have a long road ahead of us in that department.
