I missed your posts on the board the past few weeks. Glad things are going well for you
So YOU are the one not letting yourself respect who you are for taking your H back because you are holding onto a misperception of who you thought those women were whose shoes you are now filling. You now hold the key to letting that go.....so do it.
I know I hold the key to getting over my misperceptions. I am an intelligent person. Can reason it out no problem. The reasonable/rational side of me is overpowered by the emotional side right now (well, probably most of the time ) I don't want to be able to just SAY I am right but I want to FEEL like I am right. "It is right to take H back and make the M work." Sure, makes sense, but if my feelings are all over the place, I can't make my cognitions match up. You are going to have to start literally training your brain to do this....it's a very concious thing to learn right now YES. And it is going to take all of my willpower. Lots of work. Gotta psyche myself up for it. Right now, I'm still a little in the "poor me" phase. The sense of entitlement phase. I really need to break through that barrier.
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