One of you eventually has to step up to the plate to see it through; otherwise, you go round and round in circles, with moments of great connection followed by despair.

That's exactly it IHJ. Can't seem to break the "up and down" cycle. Too bad that's not in the bedroom

Sounds like a good time for the two of us to go on a guilt-free chocolate binge, whaddya say to that?
I'm all over that one already IHJ. Chocolate and depression go hand in hand
Although so does chocolate and happiness, and indifference, and.....