some clues for you about your H. Emotions vex, and tax him immensely. Calmness is a front. Its uncivilized, and inapproriate to spew emotionality all over the place, in his world. He is balancing out your end of the see saw.
You cannot change him. You can choose to not emotionally 'assault' (not meaning abuse) him, and give him time to climb out of his shell. It will be worth it.
Thank you for that BF. He stated as much the other day, that I am emotionally draining to him at times. Over the top emotional. He has a tendency to retreat when I am like that but has been making more of an effort to express himself with me. We will never have the same level of emotionality, passion, drive, etc but we need to meet some of each others needs more. I need him to be more passionate and he needs me to take it down a notch
