Opti, Well that's interesting about your login being a forward capitol. I know your posted comments always seem to cheer me up even if they don't for you. Maybe that's what it's supposed to mean. Either way, I have confidence you'll get there.

Interesting about your H being the nuclear family and home person and the one tearing up the marriage. I'm in the same situation, my parents divorced when I was 12 but my W's parents stayed together until her father passed away and from her perspective when she initially brought up D is that she didn't want to grow old in a relationship like her parents, something there but not full blown love or as she put it "not the way a W should love a husbamd" or vice-versa. Meanwhile on the other side, I'm the one trying to keep things together in the M and spark the old feelings. So I guess what they say about statistics is true, can't trust them (like my W, lol). So backwards in our case too.

I won't go back to my past houses or towns either which will become interesting when the time comes to leave here, choosing a place for the first time, not the military's choice.

So have you ever actually been to Brazilia? RonJon "Love is a Decision"

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