RonJon, just to reply to your other comments before this thread locks...
Unlike me, H grew up in a very tight nuclear unit. He wasn't a military brat. He lived in the same house from 5 years old until he left for bootcamp. Although his dad did leave for a 2 month period when H was 6 or 7 before deciding to come back to his M.
My concept of home is more fluid than his. I can't go back to any of the houses I lived in growing up because they belong to other people now or to people I am no longer related to by marriage. I have many ex-step people floating around out their that were once supposed to be my family and now wierdly mean nothing. H used to insult my family background, but then he is the one that turned around and tore up our M and little family and I'm the one that's clinging to it. That statistic about kids from divorced homes being more likely to divorce is backwards in our case.
OK, I'm still pissed today. But, I am taking your advice and doing some constructive, positive thinking today.
And my log in name, "optimist," is really a forward capitol. You know, like when countries like Brazil name some unappealing, landlocked town their capitol, like Brazilia, to get people to move there. I am hoping I will manifest my log in and BECOME optimistic. And I also chose it because, next to my H, I am an unbridaled enthusiast about anything.
