I smell a thread lock-up so better get a comment in now before losing track. First off Whoa! is this OPti on the other end or has Pessimist taken control of the computer? You said yourself how H flip-flops so the comment about his parents house being his only home can flip to include your house. If he's a military brat, they do have to change their residences frequently and lose track of the concept of home.
As for the other stuff, it's in the past and like the DB book says, change your other half by changing yourself. Figure out the patterns that didn't work in the past look for way to change them in a positive manner. You need to put together your goals and steps to reach them for when he gets there to avoid past pitfalls. Time to dust off the "Divorce Remedy" and get to researching and planning. Above all, find Opti and tell her to act as if positively. Deep breaths,...that's better. RonJon
