Quote: i don't really know what to comment on him saying he had not decided which airport to fly into yet. I just hope that he comes to his senses and see the only choice there is to make on that one!
H once told me (while I was sitting on the coach with our newborn son in my arms) that he could never consider anywhere but his parents house his "home." I was hurt for a long time about that-still am. After the bomb and DBing I decided to chalk that up to the importance he put on owning the actual building rather than living in military housing. After we bought the house I'm in now he emailed that it would be nice to have a place to call "home" that wasn't owned by the government. So I was hopeful that he was going to start considering where S3 and I were home even if he wouldn't see it more than two or three times before it went up for sale again.
So, his ambivalence about flying here instead of his parents is a kicker. I THINK it has something to do with the fact that his parents will hand him over a vehicle to drive around freely and if he flys here, we would have to share a car for a couple weeks. It's not really an issue because I can walk to work from my house.
I thought about emailing him that to try to convince him to come here, but I'm still steaming. And I think it would just be an excuse anyway and it would painful to hear him dig up a new excuse.
Quote: As for the show-and-tell thing. How about if you do not call it that again... Just ask him if he would like to go with S3 to daycare for a while one day so S3 can show him around the place he spends his days. That might not seem like so much pressure then.
Yeah, I suppose I can just say, "go to daycare with S3 for a little bit," but the cat's out of the bag now I guess. In the past I jumped things on him like that so he didn't have enough warning to back out. I don't know if that's a better policy than coming out and asking for him to do things with either S3 or I. Seems to get the same "no" either way.
