Quote: My biggest fear for you is that when H does come home on leave, when he does transfer and you all live together...how will you handle that? You're a strong independent woman, can you blend that again with your H on a day to day basis?
That is the biggest challenge, don't I know it! I have told myself again and again that it is the living together again part that is going to be the real work, the real frustration. But, then the frustration of the present wipes out that warning. I have to be careful that in my rush to get over the hurtle of living apart I don't run straight into the hurtle of living together with my eyes shut (AGAIN! I did this preceding the bomb when we moved to AK).
Yes, I know that will be tough. The toughest part will be to keep my perspective and my mind open to creative options when H starts cutting me off at the pass, everytime I try to find a compromise or even just do what it takes to please just him...instead of just feeling stuck and beat down so all I want to do is walk away or lash out. H doesn't like either or those, and it's hard to see a route inbetween sometimes.
Quote: How about something different with the long stretches of no communication. Send him some funnies, send him a little tidbit of info about the house, the dog, S3, the weird little town you live in.
I've sent him three emails since he's been incomunicado. I think they're just stacked up in his inbox waiting until he gets connectivity. I had sent him a little political satire last month and we actually had a funny back and forth. That's one of our issues. He's right, I'm left. We were both moderate on our sides, but after we started fighting we became extremists, predictably. Just like WAS and LBS polarize on their memories of the M. So, I'm slowly learning how to talk about that with him again. I would prefer just to stay away from the subject but he really wants to talk politics with his spouse. So, I figured out that if I can keep it comical and over the top, we stay safe. But, it can't always be that way, so I'm going to have to keep learning.
Quote: What is his LL? any plans to fulfill some of that?
WOA, WOA, WOA. "Wow, you're really good at...Can you teach me how to...I need some advice on...You work so hard...I really appreciate the way you...Not many other husbands would...Your such a good dad...S3 is so proud of you...S3 talks about you all the time..."
