Come on Opti, you're not asking a fair question! Really, I feel so much the same, wondering what in the world am I doing in this life. My biggest fear for you is that when H does come home on leave, when he does transfer and you all live together...how will you handle that? You're a strong independent woman, can you blend that again with your H on a day to day basis? and can he do the same? I speak from some experience, when H was gone from home long periods of time, even when we were in love it was hard when he came home from the road and I had to change my daily habits to include him. I didn't mind, I love(d) our time together, but it was definite changes.
How about something different with the long stretches of no communication. Send him some funnies, send him a little tidbit of info about the house, the dog, S3, the weird little town you live in. I've been wondering about doing the same thing in my communication with H, we used to talk back and forth all day long, now we are dark during the day. Not sure yet, it's a big step for me, and I don't want to be an irritation for him either.
But then again, it sounds like you have a plan for how you want to proceed. Without any daily interaction, you have a lot to accomplish in the time span of H's leave. Stay strong. What is his LL? any plans to fulfill some of that?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Really, I feel so much the same, wondering what in the world am I doing in this life. My biggest fear for you is that when H does come home on leave, when he does transfer and you all live together...how will you handle that? You're a strong independent woman, can you blend that again with your H on a day to day basis? and can he do the same? I speak from some experience, when H was gone from home long periods of time, even when we were in love it was hard when he came home from the road and I had to change my daily habits to include him. I didn't mind, I love(d) our time together, but it was definite changes. 
