"Hey, Sweetie-I was daydreaming today about you coming home. I'm trying not to get too excited because I'm sure you still don't know when it will happen. And I won't be able to take off all of your leave, but I have at least two weeks vacation that I want to take the last part of your leave. [S3] and I are going to be so excited to pick you up at the airport. And [S3] would love it if you kept him home from daycare and spent the days with him while I was at work. Then we could get the heck out of [my podunk town] and drive down to [your parents] when I get vacation."
Do you think it's too much to ask H about spending the weekend away? In the last year he has talked to me and emailed me as if he never dropped the bomb. He has lavished me with money and gifts (well, to my standards anyway-I'm a cheap bastard). He always signs off with "I love you and I miss you."
Yet, the whole quality time thing is the same old "cheeseless tunnel" arguement for us. He doesn't want to spend time alone just with me. He won't want to leave S3 behind. We have never taken a vacation together. We got married in the courthouse and certainly never had a honeymoon. It's waisted time to him. And it hurts me so bad that I have spent days not talking to him. A year or two into living together for the first time I gave up on ever doing anything with him and started doing things on my own or with friends. Then he accused me of having a secret life.
