By act as if, do mean emailing him to ask when he is flying into my area instead IF he's flying into this area? I can do that. I plan to wait a few more days at least. He probably still doesn't know if/when he's getting leave, so I don't want to hound him with questions he can't answer. But, I will have to ask, because he rarely offers information much ahead of time.
I can totally hear him say, "you won't be able to take off the whole time I'm on leave anyway, so I'm just going to fly to my parents and you can drive down there and meet me later."
Then I'll argue that if he flew here, he could stay at home and get some quality time with S3 and finish some house projects. And I'd be able to atleast spend the evenings and weekend with him while I wait for my vacation time. Then when I'm off we can all drive to his parents.
To which he'll say, "no, it's easier for my parents to pick me up at the airport," or "yeah, but I already bought the tickets." And then I'll become very silent and overcome with the feeling that he just doesn't have the need to spend time with us, no matter how much he claims to love us. I might be overcome with racking sobs of disappointment. And I'll consider it a DB success if I can beg off the phone without flat out hanging up on him and mentally preparing myself to file for D.
Or maybe I'm creating this whole drama in my head, and he has been planning to fly into my area all along.
No, seriously, incase I'm right, what do I say if he wants to fly to his parents (it's not inconcievable given his history)????
