I went to your latest thread and found out you aren't even in HI right now.
One of the things I do like about the military is being able to move every few years without disrupting your career. But, my wanderlust, as my mom puts it, started long before the military. I can't imagine staying anywhere for 10 or 15 years either. Now I'm stuck in a place where if you weren't born in the area or plan to settle in until retirement, you might as well keep on moving, because no one's going to give you a second look.
Advice for you? I just can't think of any. Besides, trust your best judgement, but necessarily your emotions. If it seems like the time to lay it on the line with W, then do it wisely. On the other hand, the last time I saw H, I was sure that I HAD to have some kind of straight talk about our future. We didn't end up doing that because I chickened out. But, after he left, I sent him a kind, but "straight talk" email (without ultimatum). And I had good results from that. Although, I was not facing a D deadline. Still, the D is not final at the end of your vacation, right? Feel it out. You know best what to do, not anybody else.
