H called last night and we were on the phone for nearly 3 hours. We talked about the new house and what home improvement projects I'm working on. We talked about how S3 is doing, the funny things he's said recently. I told H that S3 was very excited to drive to his parents' house, but I am having to make it clear that daddy won't be there this time. (Last time we saw H was when we drove to his parents' house while he was on leave.) But, I think S3 understands. He's still excited to see everyone else. And he will still be spoiled rotten.
And we talked about money. The house, S3, and money are always easy topics. It's amazing, but we really do talk openly about money. H is so responsible with money. It's taken me a few years, but I have learned from him and gotten much better with money too. My problem has always been making so little money that I was scared to take an inventory, not that I spend so much. He's a bigger spender than I am generally, but he makes enough money and he also saves and invests. I would prefer to save and invest more, but we are doing fine.
Another thing that I noticed is that H mentioned where "we" might get stationed next. He hasn't done that for almost a year I think. I want to talk more about the future and where we might go after he gets transfered. Mostly so I can spend time thinking about leaving this town. But, I know that it's impossible to even make a good guess at where he will be transfered at this point. Still a good year and a half left here. Eh.
It was a good phone call. I wish he'd call earlier in the day, though. Know I'm so tired and starting out the week without a workout (I weighed in a few pounds heavier this morning ). But, H sleeps most of the day when he isn't working and doesn't start moving around until afternoon. He's an insomniac and isn't willing to change his habits for anybody. Not even to try to fix his sleep problems.
Well, I've got to get ready for the day. Late this week S3 and I are making the long drive to the inlaws. H said he'd call while I'm there (the day before Mother's Day). I'm greedily hoping he sent me something for Mother's Day. Flowers would be awsome. He knows I like fresh cut flowers. My LL isn't gifts, but when you can't have physical touch or quality time, it's all there is.
H and I are doing as well as can be expected under the circumstances. Better than can be expected, really. But, sometimes, after five months has gone by since I've seen him, and there's still three months until I see him again, and I haven't heard his voice for two weeks, I begin to feel like he doesn't really exist. Like I'm in love with a figment of my imagination and I'm having trouble even imagining him anymore. I can't even think about how much longer it has to go on this way. Any normal person would say it's longer than a relationship could be sustained.
). But, H sleeps most of the day when he isn't working and doesn't start moving around until afternoon. He's an insomniac and isn't willing to change his habits for anybody. Not even to try to fix his sleep problems.
