Well, I'm finally moving over from the Separated board. Things have been improving slowly, but I was waiting until I got concrete communication from H that he wants to live together when he gets restationed (in the military) in two years time.
And I finally got what I was waiting for early this morning!
Recap of sitch: I'm 30, H is 33, S is 3. More than a year and a half ago S3 and I moved to H's new station in Alaska. H seemed to flip out at his new station. A month or two later he announced that he was moving out of our new house and onto his ship. 5 months later things deteriorated into talking about D and S and I moved back to the continental US to live with my mom. H said he was filing for D. 6 more months later he visited us and said he couldn't file, but didn't commit to the M at same time. We slowly started to develop a kinder R over email and sometimes phone. And over this past Thanksgiving H visited and we were almost a family again. "Almost" because we did and talked about everything except when we would be living together again.
The last few months we have been looking at buying a house for S3 and I, so we can move out of my mom's (which is getting pretty uncomfortable). After agonizing about the issue of whether or not S and I are going to follow H to his next station so we can be a family again, I finally decided to come out and ask him (email) in a nice way. That way I could be confident that H and I are thinking the same thing about our future and buying a house that we plan to turn around and sell in a couple years when he is restationed.
His emailed back right away saying that he was just waiting for me to bring it up and wanted us to live together as a family again.
Wahoooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now I feel like I finally belong here in piecing and I have an inkling of what my future might look like.
