I'm going to kind of echo what the others have said. Those pains do linger for a long time sometimes....but for me, putting those things in the past is a decision I make. Sometimes I have to conciously set those things on the shelf when the rear their ugly head until they do eventually fade away.
Sometimes though, if I'm alone I just let it out....I'll have a good cry or whatever....and go through that emotion to let it out of my system. That's one less piece of it bottled up in side me that I have to worry about setting back on the shelf.
