The post that you gave is wonderful!! Thanks so much for sharing it with us.
I'm seriously debating about breaking my darkness. Today is the third day and I may end up going to the RV tonight just to give him the mail and let him take it from there. I seriously don't know what to do at this point.
Have you ever gone dark or told your H no contact?
Yes, I'm seeing a couple of people, the reasons for doing this varies and too long to go into now. And seeing others does complicate the sitch too--though I do sense more respect and interest from my H now that he knows others are interested in me.
For one thing, he used to hesitate before we ML, saying things like,"This isn't healthy for us, I don't want you to have unreasonable expectation, I don't want you to be more hurt, etc." But lately he hasn't said these things--not since I've actually been dating and not just corresponding.
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I'm not sure at all about the SL now vs. the rotten SL before our S. I am sure my H still not sure of who I am, or have become, or mostly who he is or what he wants. That's the hard part too for us, no matter how hard we want to try and are trying--we just can't fix them!
It's probably good that your H isn't sure who you are or have become b/c it kind of matches his self image right now, and it also helps him see you within an aura of mystery. Do you ever do any 180s on him?
As far as fixing them: I believe that's why they are chasing OW--to be fixed. So if we just love them as they are and compliment them, etc. and let the OWs fix them, in a way we're reversing roles with the OWs. We, in a sense, become the OWs.
I remember once about three months ago, we had gone out and came back here to our house where I'm living. He wanted to ML and I said no. Well this time he wouldn't take no for an answer. But I do see this as my fault as much as his-though some will say this isn't the case. Has anything like this happened to you? And any advise about breaking my darkness will be appreciated.
