jeanb, Forgot to tell you that I do 90% of the contact. I have almost always asked HIM for a date. So if this is what you want, don't wait for him to call, call him.
But I better be clear, I try not to call him unless I have a reason. And if he does call, I usually never pick up and rarely answer his messages. Not exactly sure why-I guess it depends on how needy I'm feeling. I know this is probably sick, but not answering him makes me feel I have a little power. For instance, last week we had an ice storm. He had to go out of town, and he called and left a message asking if we had any downed trees and if I had electricity. He said to call him if I needed him. When I saw him Sat night, he said "a response{from the message} would have been nice." I told him that I wasn't here and couldn't respond to the message.
You see, within the pursuing that a person does, there are ways to back off. I know it's not exactly Dbing, but I'll pursue and then do a 180 when I'm with him. The last two times we were together, I've done this. And you could do it too. Something like getting up in the morning and getting dressed fast and leaving without telling him where you are going--this is just an example of doing something unexpected to get their attention, to keep them wondering.
