Your sitch with ML has a lot in common with mine. I have threads all over the place. My most recent (yesterday) is on this forum titled: "Spent the night with my H, told him goodbye this morning"
Yes, it's hard to detach from them especially if your SL is still going on. My WAS left seven months ago, has had his latest OW for two months. Says they haven't had sex yet--she's probably working on his emotions now.
Anyway, found lots of info on OW, even have her name and phone num. I'm thinking of calling and talking to her, maybe telling her about our intimate relationship that has happened every weekend for seven months.
I beleive that the sex can open the couple to a more intimate R. When we first began, he told me that I shouldn't have unrealistic expectations. I assured him that I could ML "like a man"--meaning I wouldn't expect any commitment. But I beleive it's harder for me. I'm always very depressed the next day--are you?
My WAH is living 5 miles away in our RV on the property of one of his friends. He's not having an easy time in it, but now I know he gets the other women to feel sorry for him by telling them how hard he has it so his "crazy" wife can be comfortalbe in the big warm house.
My H is a very needy person. Had a hard time finding someone who would want him. Now that he's found one, he probably will never let her go.
I ceased contact with my H yesterday, but already am having thoughts of connecting with him. It's just so sad to be without him. And like you said, this time of year makes things much much harder.
Do you know who the OW is? Have you thought of calling her? This keeps crossing my mind--even though I told my H I wouldn't contact her, I'm really thinking of doing it.
Wonder if there's more people who are in sitches like this? I feel like my H and I haven't really been separated for these seven months. And he is getting the best of both worlds. My H hasn't earned much money at all this year and we're living on credit cards and borrowed money.
One question to you: Did you and your H have a good SL before now? My H and I did not. I have changed 100% since this happened. I'm an older woman and thought I wouldn't be able to--well I'll just say this, I don't need Estrogen, and it couldn't be better. But, I guess we have to now learn how to get them to be emotionally dependent on us, because this is what the OWs are doing.
Sorry I got off on my sitch--since I told him no contact yesterday, I've done nothing but cry.
