Funny I had just posted about this on another thread. I think somewhere Michelle has a post about it under Newcomer.
I kinda flip flop here...ML can mean a great deal more to a woman than a man...we tend to let our emotions really get the best of it. A man looks towards it as an intimate experience also but then they can go right back into their caves even deeper than they were before. Having the ow find out about it usually doesn't mean much...if she isn't ready to end it, that's not going to matter much after all she is dating a married man, so what type of morals does she have.
I think it all depends on the sitch. Something I personally have not come to in my sitch...so I have no personal experience...our sexual R was actually extremely wonderful, and not the slightest reason for us not being together. However, even as a friend tried to reassure me early on "with ow it's just different" I still had a problem overcoming the fact that he did share that with ow. It made me sick to my stomach. I can tell you though that even when I was considering waiting it out had it ever come up he would have gone for a serious physical checkup first including a dip in the bleach...and I am serious about that. To me, it's a great deal more than he's ML to another woman...it's also he has ML to her entire history...and I would want no part of that unless I knew his ties to her were completely over. But that's just me.
