You got it exactly Becca,,

And i keep having these decisions over and over in my head.
yes, things are way more comfortable than they were 10 months ago, but how good is this for my GAL?
2 major ways this can go. This has only been a couple of weeks now, so i think I am coasting. Coasting my way through the holidays and see from there.

Trouble is with Solution #1. Yes it is very tempting and also probably would end up to be the big ultimatum. Am I ready for that? who knows.

Solution #2. feels so right at the moment, but like i said i don't like a threesome in bed together. And I also like to picture this 3rd person, OW, as a big fat threesome. Sorry, this is how I have been bouncing up and down the last few weeks.

Also over last few months, my H has noticed me in small ways of GAL and comments positively. i.e. I wait until H calls me, I meet friends more often and he is aware, etc. Pretty hard to be detaching with him in bed next to me.

What a roller coaster.
I'm sure there's others in same sitch?
I wish that OW would find out about our togetherness and keep on pushin. him., thanks alot for your thoughts.