not sure what you mean by "dropping the rope" and "outside the marriage" - isn't this hanky panky affair that goes on for over a year already outside the marriage? I hope you don't suggest that I file for divorce.
Nowhere was I suggesting that you divorce.
"Dropping the rope" has to do with you living your life without any consideration for H's part in it. Sends a message that he's losing you, which he may not want to do.
New information from your other thread to now consider here: your H has told the OW that he's looking to end things with you by getting you to the point where you won't accept his behavior anymore. So, if you were to drop the rope and he couldn't care less, would confirm if that's really his plan or not.
"Outside the marriage" meant whatever it is that he's unresolved with you and getting from her, or seeking for himself.
