my h's affair lasted a long time...exactly how long I'll never know.
I know he spent some time with her before we were married...decided he shouldn't spend time with her anymore because after all he was marrying me...still went to her christmas party the first year we were married without me despite the fact that I let him know how disrespected by it I felt (at that point I knew nothing of their friendship and thought she was just a weird customer of his who had boundary issues)
by the time I found out about their "friendship" they had been seeing eachother regularly for lunch and daily phone calls for over a year.
3 months after exposure h moved out
7 months of seperation
OW eventualy asks her h for D because she's "in love with my h"
shortly after ow asks her h for d my h gets confused and decided he wants to try again with me
ow stayed around for a bit after that though I don't know how long
OW has apparently moved on
though h is now home and ow has a new bf (she did D her h after all) things still are not great between us.
make certain you don't want your spouse back for the wrong reasons.
I am for outing the A that doesn't mean you run your mouth and tell the world...it simply means you let your spouse know that you know...hey part of the reason they may be doing it is because in their mind you don't care.
